11/12/08

Another Light Gone


Another light in our family has gone out...our dear friend darrell, who we have known for 25 years passed away unexpectedly monday night. It was a shock as he had gone in to the hospital with a broken hip and we expected a long recuperation afterward, but he never woke up after the operation. It's very hard to really believe he's gone.
Darrell and I had a rocky beginning to our friendship as he was very ADD and his idea of logic was a bit convoluted to put it mildly...but eventually we found that we could talk about Art without argument and that bond stayed strong over the years. In fact, I think most of what I feel I know about art, I learned from Darrell. He taught me to see beyond the surface and into the heart and soul of an object...or maybe into the heart and soul of it's maker....I know we didn't always like the same work, in fact, our personal taste in artists were pretty dissimilar, but our taste in actual objects were very alike. I have a number of pieces of art and craft that he bought or created (he was also an artist) over the years and then passed on to me when he'd had them for a while. I always think of him when I see them and they will always remind me of him in the future.
But what I'll treasure the most is knowing that whenever I truly see something, I will be seeing it partly through his eyes as well. And maybe I'll even hear his voice in my head...we've known each other for so long, I bet I'll know what he'd say.
I'm counting the blessings of knowing Darrell today...and thanks to our friend Bob Barry for this wonderful photo of Darrell.

12 comments:

Tracey N. said...

So sorry for your loss. Good friends are so hard to find. Especially someone who shares your passion for creativity and art. One just never knows when their time will come. What a shame. Huge hugs go out to you!

paulahewitt said...

oh Bobbi - you are having a rough time. Im thinking of you. it was nice that you and Darrell found common ground in art.

beadbabe49 said...

thanks, tracey and paula...

this month reminds me of the beginning of Tale of Two Cities by Dickens....It was the best of times, it was the worst of times...
big highs and deep dark lows...I'm almost afraid to see what the rest of the month brings!

GraceBeading said...

Man Bobbi... you've had a rough couple of weeks with losses, my heart and prayers go out to you and your family. I love the photo of your friend, so sweet.

I'll keep you in my thoughts, it's never easy to lose a loved one.

Sending a big hug your way,
Grace

Bobi said...

Thoughts of courage and strength heading your way, Bobbi.

Virtual (((HUG)))

a2susan said...

I'm sorry for the death of your dear friend. Sometimes the best friendships are those that start out rocky, because you really have to reach out to each other to cement the friendship.

My f-i-l died after not waking up after surgery. It's very hard because there's no chance to say goodbye, or I love you, or you were a good friend. I think that's one reason to say these things every day to our family and friends, and not wait for special occasions.

Hugs to you, Susan

beadbabe49 said...

thanks, grace and bobi...yes, there's just no way to prepare for the loss....
and susan, you're right...the hard part is not being able to say goodbye...but we had talked a few days earlier and there was no "unfinished business" between us...he knew we loved him and we knew he loved us.

abeadlady said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers, Bobbi.

Arline

MixPix said...

Very sorry to hear you have to grieve again this month - thoughts and prayers going to you with this comment.

Pursuing Art... said...

Oh Bobbi...I am so sorry!!! Know that you are both in my thoughts and prayers. Wish I could bundle up some sunshine and send it your way.

Warmest hugs...~me

shiloh said...

Bobbi , what a lovely tribute to a unique man...he will be sorely missed...you put it well ...a light is gone....
Shiloh

CC said...

Bobbi,
I'm sorry about your losses! But how wonderful to share art with someone who could give you so much insight! Wow! Truly seeing something is a wonderful gift!
And to have the joy of your kitty for so long! And the election! Wow! A time for everything!
And now you go on creating more beauty in the world.
Blessings,
CC